I love the New Year and how motivational everyone is and even how I am, but the beginning of this year I started feeling really crappy and un-motivational. I started being grumpy and taking everything that anyone was saying to me to heart. I’m quite a sensitive person so if you give me feedback in a negative way, I’d normally take it in a negative way and beat myself up over it. I couldn’t deal with the amount of bitchiness towards me in work, I have never met so many 50/60 year old women that liked to slag so many other people off as soon as their back was turned. It’s crazy and drove me insane and upset.
One day whilst I was crying in bed, feeling sorry for myself my boyfriend gave me a massive hug and told me to just simply stop letting things get to me. It sounded so simple and so many people tell me that, but I felt it was something that was so hard to do. How can I stop caring about what people say to me? How is it possible to be positive when they we’re being negative? How can I just stop letting things get to me? I went over and over it, really trying to be positive.
The next day I went into work and decided today would be the day I don’t care about those bitchy women anymore. I stopped looking at the rota to see who was in with me and I stopped listening to people, obviously not in a rude way, but if I could hear them moaning about me or anyone else I ignored them, they soon got bored and stopped. Not looking at the rota meant whoever turned up for work when I was in, was a surprise to me and I didn’t work myself up over seeing certain people. I stopped caring what they were doing and I just started concentrating on myself. I started working faster and not talking as much to those women so time would go quicker and I’d get to go home sooner, well that’s what it felt like.
It honestly sounds so silly and simple to other people, but these were the things that got to me every single day. I stopped doing extra things for people too, I stopped doing extra jobs as well as my own and I stopped staying behind to help others out. I know it may seem selfish but why should I stay behind and help people that would never help me?
Its become the same with people outside of work. I used to be so sad and upset when ‘friends” didn’t reply to my messages and I’d see them posting all over social media, that it used to get me really down. Now I think, if you can’t be bothered to make an effort to reply to me, then I won’t bother either, it sounds petty but treat people how you’d like to be treated an’ all that.
Since changing my attitude towards certain people and not caring about what they do or say about me, I’ve started to feel much more happier and I am now in a much better place. I started realising that not everyone is going to like me and I’m okay with that, as long as my boyfriend, my family and my true friends loved me for being me, then why should I care about what people who hardly know me think of me? Ultimately, what people think of you is none of your business and sometimes no matter what you do, nothing can change their opinion. So if anyone is going through a similar thing right now, stay positive. Focus your feelings on the people around you that care about you and not on the people who don’t. You will honestly feel so much better and curse yourself for even caring in the first place.
Keep being yourself and doing you. If little old sensitive me can stop caring about people think then you can too. YOU GOT THIS! You will thank yourself in the future 🙂 xo.